Overcoming sexual assault and trauma is one of the most difficult challenges for both women and men. But the good news is most can live happy, productive lives if they take some essential steps outlined below.
How Common Is Sexual Violence?
Many people don’t realize how many women are victims of sexual violence. The CDC estimates that 20% of women in the United States have been sexually assaulted or raped at some point. Many of the assailants are people the victims knew.
It’s important to remember that sexual violence victims aren’t just women; men and boys are sometimes victims of sexual trauma and rape, too.
The devastation of being sexually assaulted can wreak havoc on your life. You could have nightmares and flashbacks for the rest of your life. Some victims have struggled with anxiety, depression, and PTSD for years.
The good news is that victims of sexual violence can recover and lead everyday lives. Many have done so, and you can, too.
Talk About What Happened To You
It can be excruciating and traumatic to tell anyone you were sexually assaulted or raped. Even though you were the victim, society has a stigma around the issue. Some say they feel weak, dirty, and worthless because of what happened to them.
But remember: If you don’t talk about it, you can’t get the help you need. So, you should talk to someone you trust about the incident. Many think that if you don’t talk about it, it’s like it didn’t happen, but that’s not how it works.
Many sexual assault victims say once they started talking about it, they felt free. But it’s critical to use care in who you choose to tell. The best idea is to talk to someone calm, sympathetic and supportive.
It may be easier to open up about what happened to you if you are in a sexual violence support group. Joining a group may make you feel less alone, and the group can give you critical information about how to deal with what happened.
Work Through The Guilt And Shame
It’s common for victims to feel guilt and shame after they experience sexual assault. It’s not their fault of course, but many victims feel this way.
While it’s understandable not to want to acknowledge these feelings, you can overcome them and not carry them with you for life.
Many sexual assault victims say they should have known that something bad would happen, but they didn’t listen to their inner voice. Remember, what happened is never your fault.
Get Counseling
Many sexual assault victims experience PTSD and other symptoms, so it’s important to get counseling to process what happened to you. Locating a therapist who is skilled in sexual trauma can help you move on with your life.
Finding a therapist can be scary for some victims, but others find it a relief. When you can unburden yourself with your therapist, you will probably feel like a weight was lifted. And the counselor has the training and experience to help you heal.
Use Positive Outlets To Deal With Triggers
You may sometimes relive the experience and have flashbacks. But it’s a mistake to use drugs and alcohol to dull the negative feelings you have. Using these substances to numb the pain only makes things worse.
Many victims find that exercise, such as yoga, swimming, or running, helps them to deal with the negative energy and put it into something positive. And the endorphin release that you get from physical activity can be healing.
Keep these tips in mind as you process what happened to you and move forward with your life. Remember, many people before you have overcome sexual assault or rape, and you can, as well.
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